Friday, December 30, 2011

Early Potty Training…Am I Crazy To Even Consider It?

I have been cruising the internet for the past few days in search of all of the information about early potty training that I can get my hands on and well, let’s just say that there is a lot of information.  I have found parents that are beginning their elimination communication when their children begin to sit up on their own and others that don’t worry about it until 3 or even four.   The Bean is eighteen months and this week I am beginning to wonder if it is time to think about early potty training.
Let me back up by saying it is all Elmo’s fault!  We went to the library to rent a DVD and the only Elmo DVD available was the potty DVD.  I didn’t think twice.  I just wanted to be able to turn on Elmo when the Bean looked at me with those puppy dog eyes and asked; “Melmo,  Peas”? (Elmo, please?)  After playing the video in the background as she played for a few days, Bean began coming up to me squeezing her diaper when she went to the bathroom.  It took me a while to catch on but I figured, what the heck, so I bought a toddler potty and placed it beside the toilet. When I went to the bathroom, the Bean followed me in and would sit on her potty (fully clothed).
I didn’t think much more about it over the weeks of Christmas,  due to crafty mom overload but this week,  I began noticing that she was still telling me when she was wet or in the process of peeing.  I read about 3 day potty training and naked bottom potty training and peeing dolls and movies and well there are a lot of opinions out there.
Yesterday, Bean came to me squeezing her diaper and making a face.   I undressed her and placed her on her toddler potty.  She sat happily but did nothing.  I replaced her diaper and she peed in the next five minutes, in her diaper.  About a half hour later, she came to me squeezing her diaper and making a face so I undressed her and placed her on her toddler potty,  again.  She sat happily but did nothing again.  I replaced her diaper and she peed in the next five minutes, in her diaper. 
I did what any level headed mom would do, I headed for the kitchen and came back with salty snacks and her favorite juice and after she knocked back two cups of juice and water, I undressed her and let her play, sans diaper.  She came to me three times whining and holding her lady bits but when I sat her on the potty she would cry and reach for me without peeing so I would lift her off and she would resume playing.  She played for an hour and never peed so I chalked it up to misreading the cues and put her diaper on.  Within about five minutes she filled her diaper.
 So am I reading too much into her diaper cues?  I don’t want to push her before she is ready, but I also don’t want to ignore her cues.  I am not sure what my next step should be, so I am going to return to the Library, check out the potty video and let Elmo finish what he started.


  1. Sometimes they just have to sit for a while before they can make it happen. Try a special book that she only reads on the potty. Let her sit for a longer time than usual. It will happen eventually. And every child is different. I wouldn't worry too much. We started around 18 months, and she is just now getting into it at 21 months. By 2 she should be completely potty trained (at least that's my hope). Good luck!

  2. Follow your gut. If you see won't damage her. In the 50's there was something wrong with you if you weren't trained by 10 months. The disposable diaper manufacturers love that we wait longer. One more reason to go sooner rather than later is the closer you get to two, the more independence your child wants to project. That can really mess up the whole toilet training thing. I hope you keep posting and let us know what you decide is best for you and your family.

  3. I've found this website helpful: - suggest signing up for the 7 weekly emails. Making a "psss" and then grunting noises will help prompt her.

    I started with my now 4-month-old within a couple of weeks of his birth. While I'm obviously holding him up, we save a few nappies a day, he's more comfortable & not afraid of the potty, like some of my friends toddlers.

    Sounds like you are recognising her signals well, so keep it up.

    Cheers, @Kanga_Rue :)

  4. Thank you all so very much for your comments and support. I really don't know what i would do without the advice from other parents. She continues to tell me that she is peeing so I am simply following her cues and offering her the potty for a few weeks and then I will reevaluate if I think she is ready for more.


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