A fellow blogger over at the Parenting Patch brought up Infant Ear Piercing this week as her Hot Topic Tuesday and well since I have been a negligent blogger as of late, I decided that this is as good of a place to jump in as any. You see I am in favor of infant ear piercing and absolutely swoon over tiny baby girls with those little diamond studs in their earlobes. Not only do I think it is Adorable with a capital A, it also helps little bald baby girls like my Bean to say “I am a girl”!!
The Bean is constantly called a boy, constantly. Perhaps it is because she is a bit of a tomboy and plays a little rough, perhaps it is because I think navy blue is a gender neutral color and I don’t think that dresses are suitable “play” clothing. There are a lot of variables but with her hair only now beginning to sprout , she is generally assumed to be male and I think two little ear studs could make all the difference. So why are her ears still empty?
For one thing, I don’t care that people assume she is a boy. The other day a father at her baby gym watched her playing with three other boys and turned to me saying, “It’s so nice to see four boys playing together so nicely. How did I respond? I shook my head, smiled and said, “Oh I know, it’s great. I didn’t want to make him feel bad about calling Bean a boy and he had just said my child was well behaved, which is all that I heard! Perhaps little earrings would have made him realize those boys were playing so nicely because they were trying to impress my little lady, but she has no idea that people think she is a boy.
I was able to pierce my ears at 13 and it was a coming of age milestone. I paid for it with my saved up allowance and I waited approximately one full week before breaking my father’s rule about no earrings longer that a ½” below the earlobe. I felt so grown up and I remember cleaning and turning my earrings with pride. I want the Bean to have that moment. I want her to feel that pride of making a decision like an adult. I don’t know if I will make her wait to thirteen but I will make her wait till she can take care of her ears on her own.
Until then I will continue to swoon when I see babies with studs in their ears. I will also continue to smile when Bean is called a well behaved little boy because while I love the idea of infant ear piercing, I love the idea of a grown-up lunch and trip to the mall to get a piercing when she is ready.